Wednesday, October 15, 2025

Reflection: New Adventures

[ I'll return to my faith journaling soon - been reading daily and jotting notes but not ready to share as Holy Spirit is still teaching me 😏]

February 15, 2025-October 15, 2025 = 8 months...

How I often feel shocked at the amount of time that has transpired since my beautiful girl married her person - her fella - her stick-by-my-side-no-matter-what best friend on a rainy day that, honestly, felt the sunniest. The relaxed, joy filled, peaceful way she moved on that day amazes me even now. Kimmie is so in love with Dustin and he with her - it warms my heart beyond expression. Sure, like many newlyweds, they have things to navigate through together and find/make time for quality fellowship with one another. They have to learn to not see just the outward parts, but the inward as well. But I do believe they are making strides in the areas that require their care and attention right now. I could not begin to counsel them because this is their marriage and their journey, not mine. I'm here if they should ask, but Kimmie left my care and supervision when she said "I do" and became one with her beloved husband.

That does not mean I don't beam with happiness when they share good report with me - like Dustin celebrating one year with Braly's/ACE Hardware or Kimmie being in high demand as a substitute teacher in not one ISD but TWO (!). I also get excited for them when they share hopes and dreams for their lives - even though they are not ready financially for what they envision today...God willing, they will in the near future. As we all know (or should know), we do not have control of our days and do not have insight as to how long our life story is. That is fully known by our Creator, God the Father Who knows us more intimately than can be experienced...He knows us to our very DNA and deeper.

So, in honor of Kimmie & Dustin's eighth month of marriage, enjoy these images from their wedding day.

Be blessed & be a Blessing.

W













Monday, September 22, 2025

I Believe, Lord, Help My Unbelief

Over the past eleven days I have found myself in places of mourning, anger, deep concern, forgiveness and back to mourning again. Why you ask? Reflecting on that question (also asked by myself), the answer is not simple. As I write this, I am replaying the Charlie Kirk Memorial Service and finding myself in another posture: WORSHIP. Allow me to express my heart - maybe this message will one day reach someone struggling with how to process the unthinkable and I do hope my Father in Heaven will take over this post to speak through me or at least allow Holy Spirit to guide my thoughts today.

September 10th found me at work, processing through what I expected to be another normal day - but it was anything but normal. There was a buzzing in the office that I was hearing and, typically, I do extend courtesy to co-workers by not intentionally listening to conversations that do not involve me when I heard the mention of a name: Charlie Kirk. He'd been shot. My immediate reaction was to think: "what?! no!" - I mean surely it was not true. I need to preface that by saying I did not know Charlie personally. Then the news came that he had died. Shock then set in - Charlie, the voice in the wilderness for the Conservative movement (my personal correlation to why he had my respect), was gone. 

I'll be honest, I was perplexed as to why his assassination hit me so hard - as I stated, I did not know the man personally, just agreed with much of what he said (yes, I watched his videos in their entirety, not just what blips you see on social media platforms). I am unashamed to hold to conservative values because they are rooted in Biblical truth and I firmly believe that God's Word is true today - just as it was in the beginning and how it will be until Christ returns to get His Bride.

That being said, the questions and frustration come at me in rapid fire succession: Why is it that violence is even considered as a solution to differing viewpoints? In what reality is it just to rip a person out of existence from his/her family? How can anyone celebrate such evil as witnessed by posts on various platforms in the hours/days following this HORRIFIC act that absolutely left trauma in its wake? Why do I now plead for Christ not to tarry any longer [though my human response is to ask for mercy and grace as I feel there is so much more to be accomplished on this side of Heaven]?

Though I don't call myself a Last Days student or even close to understanding the End of Times as described in Revelation, I can attest to feeling a shift - something is different about the atmosphere since this young husband and father was murdered in front of his wife, young daughter and a host of other witnesses - and just on the basis that the assassin did not like what Charlie spoke so passionately about and stood firm on (again, all his material for his debates are found in God's Word). In past posts of mine, I did find some nuggets from my own study as well as my personal values. Please read with open heart and mind because I know we may be on opposite sides of issues or hold to differing standards (again, why I can not fathom if any of you readers profess to be followers of Christ, which is different than being a Christian it seems, there would be such a chasm or divide on God's values):

06.12.20

So, why can’t we get along?  Are we just that stubborn and set in our ways that we won’t budge?  Are the injustices from centuries ago so fresh that there is need to keep fanning the flames?  History holds so many valuable lessons for both present and future generations to apply, but nobody wants to do that if it means they have to live with the hurts from the past.  There is a balm that can be applied to those hurts – it is called forgiveness.  It isn’t forgetting or condoning those hurts, it simply is allowing peace to take root so that you can move forward.  Moving forward makes way for logical and rational action to be taken that will allow changes to occur.  Folks, we are witnessing the definition of insanity being played out before our eyes – it is the proverbial hamster wheel effect.  Sure, the First Amendment allows for freedom of speech and we have to right to assemble.  But some actions being witnessed are only going to impede progress that could be made with continued peaceful protests.  How does burning down a Target store help a cause to end racism or defund the police?  How does looting help the cause?  Nobody seems to be speaking to those things offering viable explanations.  However, if you collectively select one or two people to represent your cause to speak for your group to those in authority in a peaceful meeting to discuss the issues, then the rest of you can get back to working in order to support your families while still speaking freely about what is wrong.  Think for a moment – there are 50 states; this movement could have up to 100 peaceful representatives meeting with equal number of representatives of local government and law enforcement to fix the issues in each individual area...

04.21.22

...The good news is that we have a loving God who does not forget His own and, when one of His sheep gets lost or injured, He leaves the 99 to save the 1...One recent devotional was on Matthew 6:26 "Look at the birds of the air, for they neither reap or gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them.  Are you not of more value than they?"  Kimmie's response blew me away!  In part, she stated:

"To fully grasp the lesson being taught, it is necessary to back up one verse where the lesson gets started.  Jesus was teaching about worry/anxiousness and offering assurance to the listeners that they will be provided for...(w)e should turn our anxiousness into prayer and wait for God to provide the way out and give us peace.  Worry leaves us vulnerable to illness, interrupts productivity, impacts the way we treat others, and keeps us from fully trusting God."

Oh, wow <3!  That ministered to my heart then - and now.  My darling girl is growing so much in her faith and I get a front row seat!  Like with this devotional assignment:

Colossians 3:17 “And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him.”
"Our words and actions have a profound impact on us and others, specifically in the manner they are done.  If my speech is not wholesome, or defamatory, while claiming to be a Christian, then I am a hypocrite.  If my actions, privately and publicly, do not match up to what I claim to be, then I am not being honest to myself, God, and others.  Simply stated, if I talk the talk, I need to walk the walk." 

 And this one from another of her classes really hit me square between the eyes:

Isaiah 46:4 “Even to your old age and gray hairs I am he, I am he who will sustain you. I have made you and I will carry you; I will sustain you and I will rescue you.”

"From the beginning to the end, God is the One Who has walked alongside us.  He created each of us with a purpose and knows the struggles before they come.  What a comfort for the believer to have this knowledge of a loving Father!  Throughout our lives, we experience many changes in our cognitive processes, emotions, social lives, and interpersonal relationships.  Hopefully all these changes are positive ones, but sometimes there are negative ones.  With strong, healthy support constructs, an individual can navigate through life with very few regrets."

05.29.24

God's Word is filled with instructions as to how we are to treat one another and I find it alarming at just how far from obedience to those instructions mankind has fallen.  Either it is an air of indifference and choosing who to treat with humility, kindness, generosity, and love or just outright looking down the nose to all who do not fit in a pre-determined box! Here are some references you can look up at your own leisure as I do not want this post to become exhaustive: 2 Corinthians 1:4; Hebrews 13:16; Galatians 6:2-10; Proverbs 3:27-28; Matthew 25:42-46.  The following are personal favorites of mine:

"A generous person will be enriched, and the one who gives a drink of water will  receive water." - Proverbs 11:25

"Share with the saints in their needs; pursue hospitality." - Romans 12:13

"...If you get rid of the yoke around you, the finger-pointing and malicious speaking, and if you offer yourself to the hungry, and satisfy the afflicted one, then your light will shine in the darkness, and your night will be like noonday." - Isaiah 58b-10

"Then He will answer them, 'I assure you: Whatever you did not do for the least of these, you did not do for Me either." - Matthew 25:45

The enemy is a crafty one and has stepped up in the spiritual attacks! I am secure in my salvation and know that God has a firm hold of me - I know where my destination is, yet the human heart in me is not in a rush to get there...but, if it is God's will, then so be it because I cannot imagine anything more beautiful and peaceful than being in the presence of my Creator, His Son, and Holy Spirit in ETERNAL worship.

I pray for His mercy and forgiveness on our BLESSED nation (we do live in the greatest nation on the planet) - holding to the hope that His promises and purposes continue to not return void to Him. In the simplest prayer I ask that He raises up His children and ready us for war alongside the Angel Army - and I am confident He will (after all, I've read the end of the story and He WINS!!). May He open all hearts to see the TRUTH through unveiled eyes and redirect hearts that have been deceived so that we can make Heaven crowded...

Be blessed & be a blessing,
W

Friday, May 30, 2025

A Mother's Perspective

 I shared in my last post about my daughter's wedding to Dustin - and it was full of love and laughter for certain. My honest thought is God is certainly LOVE, but He is also desiring that His children laugh during the trials. Trials, by definition, are not designed to be humorous at all; they convict us so that we can become better people (and I am referring to life trials, not criminal trials - two different things entirely) for learning the lesson they were designed to teach. Matter of fact, His Word addresses how there are seasons for all of us in Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 God tells us this:

 1 There is a season (a time appointed) for everything and a time for every delight and event or purpose under heaven—

2 A time to be born and a time to die;

A time to plant and a time to uproot what is planted. 

3 A time to kill and a time to heal;

A time to tear down and a time to build up.

4 A time to weep and a time to laugh;

A time to mourn and a time to dance.

5 A time to throw away stones and a time to gather stones;

A time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing.

6 A time to search and a time to give up as lost;

A time to keep and a time to throw away.

7 A time to tear apart and a time to sew together;

A time to keep silent and a time to speak.

8 A time to love and a time to hate;

A time for war and a time for peace. 

In the years when Kimmie was a child and exploring all that was around her, I would often find myself wondering would she get married, have her own child/children, follow her heart and Jesus - yes, those thoughts occupied my heart to the point of perplexity. I would wake up in the middle of the night to pray for her and the man God already had covered with His wings for her in His time. To say He has blessed me by answering those prayers is factual. Without Christ, I deserve nothing at all except death for my sins. Because of Christ giving His life for me and taking the punishment for sin, my Father in Heaven sees me as white as snow - and will hear my petitions (may not always answer they way I would want, but He does answer all of them). And when He does not answer them exactly how I would expect, my response is to be thankful - and even on occasion giggle.

Dustin & Kimmie have now been married just a little more than three months and things are going very well for them. Sure, they are learning how to build their home as man & wife (it was a bachelor pad for a couple of years) but the fact is: THEY ARE DOING IT. So many married people forget that they are no longer one plus one making two, but TWO AS ONE. Marriage is a partnership and a mission field all its own - it takes work and prayer to stand firm in the trials that test the very fibers within each spouse. 

Seeing my daughter love her husband with her very soul warms my heart - only because I did not teach her how to do this. Dustin effortlessly reciprocates by loving Kimmie to the depths of his soul too. Their marriage journey has started off well with God at the center of it. My prayer for them is that they continue to follow the course God sets them on - as it will shift from time to time - and hold to each other in the good and bad. 

One last item: 

Kimmie surprised me at the reception with a video tribute set to Riley Roth's song "When God Made You My Mother" - the little stinker gave strict instruction that I was NOT to cry at all on her wedding day (which I had managed to do until this), so to have my eyes leak during this...well, hopefully you can see why if this link works as I hope:

For My Mother On My Wedding Day

And if link does not work, follow this path:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rhewm3IbBYU



Be blessed & be a blessing ~

W

Tuesday, March 4, 2025

And They Lived Happily Ever After...

 ...and yes, I do still think fairytales can come true ~

In my last post I mentioned we were in the last month before my darling girl and her beloved were to wed. On February 15, 2025 - despite the rain and gray skies - Kimmie and Dustin were married in a lovely ceremony in the chapel on the campus where they met and got engaged. Honestly, I applaud Kimmie for keeping her cool and remaining level headed when the main water line in the area busted, leaving the chapel (and surrounding buildings) without water or ability to use the toilets. Matter of fact, that was the second hiccup that she could have allowed to toss her about - the first was when I called her about 20 miles from the state line to let her know I had to go back home and retrieve my wedding outfit along with her wrap and jacket! Ha Ha - she is the BEST!!!

The floral designer did an amazing job assembling the chapel pieces while the wedding party got ready - even making additional wearables for key folks I overlooked by mistake. My hairstylist was waiting for Kimmie and I in the bridal suite at 9:15 a.m. and I quickly got into part of my outfit so that I would not mess up my hair. Once I was done, Katie (a bridesmaid) was next followed by my niece, Kat. The last person who sat for her hair to get fixed was the bride - Kimmie [it was during this time we were told of the water issue]. Once water was restored, the rest of the day moved along without any issues. 

The photographer and videographer arrived together around noon or so to start getting pictures and footage that the kids wanted in their packages. They had just finished getting with the men at the hotel Dustin had stayed at and the guys were told not to arrive at chapel until 2 pm at earliest. Once Kimmie was done with hair (her makeup was done before she sat in chair), my mom, Dustin's aunt as well as his mom, and my mother all worked to get Kimmie in her dress. Then Traci (my stylist) helped with the placing of veil. After checking that all was still looking great, Kimmie had a first look with her attendants in the chapel foyer as, unknown to us at the time, guests had started to arrive. After that sweet moment, the girls went in chapel to find that most guests were just family members, so they did some group pics and bridals. At this point, we noticed that a significant number of guests were arriving as well as the groom and his crew (can't have them seeing the bride yet) - so the photographer went in the foyer and told the crowd to "please close your eyes - the bride needs to pass through". Once Kimmie was tucked away in the suite, I made my way to foyer to visit with the few guests that had arrived and were seated in chapel. Then I stopped by to see Dustin in the groom's room - and he was so DAPPER! The wedding was going to commence on time and he was excited for their first touch which was just moments from when I stopped in. 

Once the photographer and videographer were ready for the 'first touch' and personal vows, Dustin was led in with his eyes closed and the bridal attendants were facing him to keep him honest while Kimmie was brought out of the bathroom to stand back to back with Dustin. Oh, the vows they said to each other had me tearing up, but I held it back because Kimmie wanted me to hold my tears so I could respond to pastor in the ceremony. Before we knew it, it was time to get lined up for processional. Truthfully, I thought my own wedding was a blur - this old gal is struggling to hold the memories from this beautiful wedding, so I am thankful for the pictures that were graciously provided recently. Please enjoy and know that more will come in a future post.

"You meet thousands of people and none of them touch you. And then you meet one person and your life is changed FOREVER" - Margaret Watson









Be blessed & be a blessing ~
Wendy

Thursday, January 16, 2025

It's the FINAL COUNTDOWN



 Just hopping on so that my domain does not go inactive :( - not much to report though as I've been hard at wedding planning and payments to vendors. We are in the final month before the nuptials and, honestly, things have been pretty easy to navigate. 

Items that have successfully been checked off include:

- finding/buying and altering my MOB outfit;

- alterations of KLW's wedding gown;

- securing a stylist to come to venue in order to fix hair for any who need it aside from KLW and myself;

- final meetings with photographer and videographer;

- pre-marital counseling and timeline for officiant;

- obtaining marriage license (the kids did that 01/15/25)

Whew! That is a TON!!

There's still a good deal left to finish off like paying floral designer, turning in final headcount for reception venue, finalize menu for reception, pay cake decorators for wedding cake and groom's cake, and final payment to DJ.

Now if only folks would get RSVPs to us (about 20% still have not responded)...

Be Blessed & Be A Blessing

W

Wednesday, November 27, 2024

Well, Hello Again



 Suppose it is long past time to post some type of update, right? After all, six months is half of a year and TONS have transpired since my last post.

Briefly:

- Settled on THE DRESS for KLW's upcoming wedding;

- Secured vendors for photography, videography, floral decorations, and music at reception (whew!)

- Searched for months for the right veil to finish off the bridal look and finally found it in late October in Minden, LA.

- The hunt for the elusive M.O.B outfit continues with great hopes that I can find the right look to fit the theme of wedding (vintage rustic chic/elegant).

Other happenings included a brief visit by my younger sister earlier this month and celebrating my parents 58th wedding anniversary. They have been a true example of how marriage can be sustainable and I hope between theirs and Dustin's parents own 31 year union, Dustin and Kimmie can apply what they have seen lived out in front of them in their own marriage.

My next update will likely be after the wedding in late February (with pictures)...

79 more days....

Be blessed & Be a blessing,

W


Wednesday, May 29, 2024

We Must Do Better

 








What do each of these homes have in common?  Go ahead - take a wild guess.  I'll give you time to think about it.  In the meantime, allow me to share my heart...

Nothing gets my dander up than seeing people treated with indifference based on race, economic class, or bias based on level of education. Perhaps that is because I've experienced bullying and abuse most of my life which allows me to recognize when others are being treated badly/abused. In our depraved world, this behavior should not be a big surprise - but c'mon folks can we not practice kindness, compassion, humility and generosity with those who have less?  Why stop there...it should be indiscriminate.

I know too many people who have much and lack the basic skills of generosity and humility.  I also know a large number of folks who have very little and are rich in humility, kindness, and give of their time if they can't give anything else (generosity).  Likewise, there are those (though I do not know them personally) who exhibit the opposite of the folks that I do know (rich who exceed with generosity without indifference and humility as well as poor who are self-centered and abound with a sense of entitlement mindset).

Recently, I discovered that someone dear to me is being treated with indifference by blood relations.  If I had hair on my spine, it would be raised up BIG time!  This bulldog would be on the attack for sure.  But, unfortunately, all I can give them is my attentiveness while they express the deep hurt they are experiencing.  In addition, I offer what advice or direction to obtain assistance that I can in the hopes they will heed it.  Help does not come if it is not asked for.

For the purpose of illustration, I will draw from my own personal experience. When I was married, my spouse's family and their spouses accepted me without question - as I did them. Once the marriage ended, for the most part, my daughter and I were essentially invisible to a large number of them. There were a few that still acknowledged our existence and invited us for visits. Once my daughter was of adult age, suddenly and without explanation, both of us were invisible or looked down on [save the small group that continue to consider us family]. The indifference we now experience does not make sense at all. We have done nothing to deserve this treatment.  Are we not good enough or economically equal to them?  Maybe in their eyes - but it should not matter one iota. It is sad, really.  They are the ones missing out greatly and, one day when their close inner circle is gone, they will reach out and find nobody in the outer rims with open arms simply because they continued to keep pushing that group of people (including me and K) further and further away.  I deeply miss those relationships and mourn them. Talk about the walking dead - and not the scary ones. Sure, I was hurt deeply by my ex-husband but that hurt did not extend to his family - they had no idea what he was doing to me.  

God's Word is filled with instructions as to how we are to treat one another and I find it alarming at just how far from obedience to those instructions mankind has fallen.  Either it is an air of indifference and choosing who to treat with humility, kindness, generosity, and love or just outright looking down the nose to all who do not fit in a pre-determined box! Here are some references you can look up at your own leisure as I do not want this post to become exhaustive: 2 Corinthians 1:4; Hebrews 13:16; Galatians 6:2-10; Proverbs 3:27-28; Matthew 25:42-46.  The following are personal favorites of mine:

"A generous person will be enriched, and the one who gives a drink of water will  receive water." - Proverbs 11:25

"Share with the saints in their needs; pursue hospitality." - Romans 12:13

"...If you get rid of the yoke around you, the finger-pointing and malicious speaking, and if you offer yourself to the hungry, and satisfy the afflicted one, then your light will shine in the darkness, and your night will be like noonday." - Isaiah 58b-10

"Then He will answer them, 'I assure you: Whatever you did not do for the least of these, you did not do for Me either." - Matthew 25:45

So, in my assessment of the pictures that opened this entry, there is absolutely nothing visible that shows each home was not filled with love, protection, laughter, or generosity/humility. Sure, in the same breath, I can say that we do not see what is contained within the walls of each home (since any one home or all could hold dark secrets of abuse and neglect just as easily as they can hold great love and attributes of generosity, kindness, helpfulness, and hospitality).  The point is: we must do better.  We must put aside attitudes that illustrate indifference in technicolor.  We must work harder to be better towards each other - blood related or perfect strangers.  Each person with breath in their lungs is deserving of kindness, generosity, help and love.  Personally, I could care less if your income is $8k per year or $1M per year - all of us bleed the same.

Be blessed and (REALLY) be a blessing ~
W